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20 Simple Tips for the First Date

#5 After reading the three sections in the book, I realized that I have my own rules for dating that I go by. Some are very similar to the 20 rules Samantha Daniels wrote about. Some are not. I am a very high maintenance girl in the appearance area of myself. For instance, If I am going on a date (we will say a date is going out to dinner) the guy should not be wearing jeans. I love to dress up. I am not into jeans, never really have been. I do not feel comfortable in them. I think that a women should look her best at all times. Jeans are not for looking your best. I have a three day calling rule. If you are interested in something calling me within the three days is probably a good idea. Any longer and I probably lost intertest and will assume you have too. Out of site out of mind. Most of the things that I want or that I expect out of people are things that I would expect myself to do or not do. Most men that I meet have no chivalry, respect, irresponsible, and unreliable. First impressions are important with dating as they are with a job interview. I sort of look at it like you are interviewing each other for a position. Weather that idea matches up is what the date is for. So showing up in jeans is not really looking your best. Would you do that in a job interview?

To answer the question Although The Rules was met with heavy criticism when it was published because of it's built in assumptions about women's roles, doesn't "20 Simple Tips for the Perfect Date" operate under the same sets of beliefs? Why, then, might some readers find The Rules unacceptable, but "20 Simple Tips" palatable? The 20 Tips just seem curtseys towards people. A respect for the person whom you spent time with or who you will be. To me The Rules are telling me that if I do not "Wait" for the right guy I am going to get all the wrong ones. That is the most retarded thing I have herd. It is not the Man's job to put forth all the effort in relationships. In my eyes that should be equal. The reason why certain things worked like coming out parties was because of the era. They did not have the internet where people can connect instantly for whatever reason. No cell phones or T.V. Time moves forward, I think it is good to incoperate certain things into dating, ethics and morals are important, update versions of rules, but I will not place someone else's happiness above my own. When I am married there will be compromise. I try to live my life by this quote "I swear by my Life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for the sake of mine". Ayn Rand 1964 Atlas Shrugged

posted by -*K*- @ 8:03 AM